tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22462867.post116654350232366526..comments2023-12-23T05:39:28.481-05:00Comments on Culture for All: My Week, In BriefRed Tulipshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03546144713477594777noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22462867.post-1166893290824975062006-12-23T12:01:00.000-05:002006-12-23T12:01:00.000-05:00I don't follow the Royal Family news since the ta...I don't follow the Royal Family news since the tabloid readers have that covered. I figure 1776 saved Americans from that nonsense. Still, it was upsetting to hear of Diana's untimely death.<BR/><BR/>Marriage however is a topic that is dear to me since I was married at 19 years old. My girlfriend and I thought at the time "We are going to get married sometime; why wait?" There was family pressure to NOT get married at a young age. If one is emotionally mature enough and has chosen a mate that is 80% satisfactory, then get married and begin really enjoying life. It's not as big a deal as some make it out to be.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22462867.post-1166719263040819962006-12-21T11:41:00.000-05:002006-12-21T11:41:00.000-05:00Redtown,I agree with you re: BPD. Kitty Kelley's ...Redtown,<BR/><BR/>I agree with you re: BPD. Kitty Kelley's <I>The Royals</I> was most illuminating about this all!<BR/><BR/>Personally, as I said, I think Elizabeth II has gotten a bum rap, and is a far better queen than she is given credit for! I also think Diana was overhyped to death. (literally, sadly)Red Tulipshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03546144713477594777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22462867.post-1166640884743403632006-12-20T13:54:00.000-05:002006-12-20T13:54:00.000-05:00The one character not developed in the film was Di...The one character not developed in the film was Diana herself. While she remains the poster girl of superficial popular culture, it was a very different Diana--behind the facades of glamour and pseudo-compassion--whom the Royal family knew personally.<BR/><BR/>Both Diana and her brother, Charles Spencer, suffered from Borderline Personality Disorder caused by their mother's abandoning them as young children. A google search reveals that Diana is considered a case study in BPD by mental health professionals. <BR/><BR/>For Charles Spencer, BPD meant insatiable sexual promiscuity (his wife was divorcing him at the time of Diana's death). <BR/><BR/>For Diana, BPD meant intense insecurity and insatiable need for attention and affection which even the best husband could never fulfill. <BR/><BR/>From a BPD perspective, it's clear that the Royal family did not cause her "problems". Rather, she brought her multiple issues into the marriage, and the Royal family was hapless to deal with them. <BR/><BR/>Her illness, untreated, sowed the seeds of her fast and unstable lifestyle, and sadly, her tragic fate.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22462867.post-1166589030864910052006-12-19T23:30:00.000-05:002006-12-19T23:30:00.000-05:00I guess since my mother is a yenta, but a shiksa y...I guess since my mother is a yenta, but a shiksa yenta, I don't have to worry about that speech, especially since she has been emotionally castrating me since my father left and I was a convenient vent for her anger at her ex-husband and men in general.<BR/><BR/>My father told me he wants grandchildren, but only when I directly asked him. Granted, I am the last male Forsyth of Nydrie and Tailzertoun, but he doesn't care about that at all. My cousins do, but they are more in tune with their Scottish roots.Thomas Forsythhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00837156392258098698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22462867.post-1166584164769753532006-12-19T22:09:00.000-05:002006-12-19T22:09:00.000-05:00I remember the day when Diana died. I was on a va...I remember the day when Diana died. I was on a vacation on Channel Islands. My first thought was: "who cares?". My second thought was: "has the world gone crazy"? That was when I learnt of all the fuss and tears. I think most people who cried were crying for themselves - a lot of them could remember what they did on Diana's wedding day.<BR/><BR/>As for marriage, I've just seen statistics that<BR/>a) 60% of husbands are unfaithful <BR/>b) 40% of wives are unfaithful<BR/>c) 80% of all families have at least one unfaithful spouse. <BR/><BR/>I assume this statistics is worse for atheists. <BR/><BR/>Am I missing out here?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22462867.post-1166581928038255862006-12-19T21:32:00.000-05:002006-12-19T21:32:00.000-05:00In regards to marriage we live in a different age ...In regards to marriage we live in a different age now, where our wants and needs change on an almost daily basis. Some people are influcened by the cult of the celeb (i hates it) and lifestyle quacks.<BR/><BR/>As for the Queen, she is extremely fierce about protecting the status of the King or Queen of England. She want's the institution to survive and to be honest it looks as though she's taken William aside and given him personal instruction for the time when he becomes King (theres been talk of the Queen passing charles over for William as King when she dies, though that would need a privy council thing). <BR/>And Diana is the perfect example of the excesses of western culture at it's worst. I'm not a big of fan of western culture as it has in recent years started to turn away from reason and logic when dealing with the world's problems. People are much more concerned with getting the latest phone or following a certain famous person's troubled personal life. <BR/><BR/>And i believe it's good to immerse ones self in ones culture and history. Even if you don't follow pictcular aspects of it. It gives you a sense of where you come from. However i'm a firm believer in the notion that we are all the same, but with different perceptions of reality which comes from the tribal and cultural nature of human kind.Kevinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06123284721988948721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22462867.post-1166572169279708062006-12-19T18:49:00.000-05:002006-12-19T18:49:00.000-05:00LOL! Your marriage points really remind me of my m...LOL! Your marriage points really remind me of my mother, who attempts to hide the issue behind her "When will I have grandchildren question!" When I was dating, she made strong hints that *scared* my ex! (No, that's not why we broke up, but still!) : D Personally, I'm very conflicted on marriage. I could see why it can be a very good thing - IF it works. But the problem is, I see so many marriages fail that I'm not sure why it should work for ME of all people...Irina Tsukermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10964771563778702009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22462867.post-1166554515384785642006-12-19T13:55:00.000-05:002006-12-19T13:55:00.000-05:00Raccoon:So true about Hellenism. It is very inter...Raccoon:<BR/><BR/>So true about Hellenism. It is very interesting to see how Jews are simultaneously responsible in many ways for the foundation of Western culture - and yet the forces of assimilation from Western culture threaten to wipe out modern Jewry.<BR/><BR/>Personally, I <3 Western culture, and value it above all else. However, one of the bases of Western culture and certainly Hellenism is the concept of rationality. Rationality is inherently opposed to religion, and so it certainly is a struggle for non-Israeli Jews to maintain a Jewish identity while still adhering to notions of rationality. I already wrote about this phenomenom, and noted that perhaps it is antisemitism that keeps modern secular Jewry thriving today. (<A HREF="http://cultureforall.blogspot.com/2006/09/nature-of-being-jewish.html" REL="nofollow">see here</A>)<BR/><BR/>Anyway, certainly I agree with you concerning the stupid pressure Jewish parents place upon their kids! It's so counterproductive, it's not even funny! Let's say you have a kid SOLELY due to parental pressure - prior to being ready for the kid - who does THAT help??Red Tulipshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03546144713477594777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22462867.post-1166553815668441342006-12-19T13:43:00.000-05:002006-12-19T13:43:00.000-05:00LOL about marriage :)For years the grandparents of...LOL about marriage :)<BR/><BR/>For years the grandparents of both me and wife (we obviously weren't married back then) would give us strong hints, usually in the form of gifts. The most blunt was "For your wedding!" mugs my granny gave us :)<BR/><BR/>The thing is, this doesn't stop with the marriage. Now we're getting gifts with babies on them. And Polish remarks like "*sigh*... I don't have much left to live... ach, how I wish to see a grand-grandchild before I die... *sigh*" :)<BR/><BR/>Your average Jewish mother is a mean, lean guilt-and-gefiltefisch machine. Pressuring people into marriage and children is genetically coded into them... just wait 'till you're a mom :)<BR/><BR/>The event thing sounds uber-cool. Or better than digging in garbage cans, anyway. <BR/><BR/>And about Yehuda the Maul and the whole Hashmonean Dynasty... it is interesting to note that the final result of their rebellion was civil strife, comlpete fusion of Hellenistic and Jewish cultures and the Disapora under Roman occupation. Although it is probable that without the rebellion, we would have had not a fusion of cultures but rather a cultural annihilation. <BR/><BR/>And well... the Hellenistic culture has eventually been absorbed into the Roman one, and the Roman culture gave birth to the Western culture that we enjoy. The same culture in which Jews found themselves at the forefront of progress. And please note that arguably the greatest Jewish scholar, Rambam (Maimonides) - the prime compiler of the Halacha - worked in the framework of Judeo-Hellenistic philosophy. The Judaism we know now is the offspring of this philosophical and cultural fusion.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com